Posts Tagged ‘choice’

Eat An Egg!

May 1, 2014

I love when I can put a message clearly into words for others to read. This one isn’t mine, it came from my friend Mary Ellen who has been creating like a mad woman lately, her latest creation is 23rd and Bird, an awesome little shop in Norwood, MA. I think she gets her point across quite nicely…

“Over the years, I have found that some of my most profound “aha” moments have come while giving advice to my children. This is especially true when the sh*t is getting real, or the sh*t’s hitting the fan or there’s just too much sh*t going on. Basically, it’s advice on how to take care of yourseIf. I often tell the girls, when they are having a meltdown, to go get in some water. Jump in a puddle, run in the rain, take a swim or a hot bath. So yesterday, before racing off to work. I decided to shower, which I really didn’t have time for. I even managed to shave a leg! (I’m planning on getting to the other one later this week.) But it was good to ask the question, “What do I need?”egg

Yesterday, I said to my son, who is equally as overscheduled, that no matter what, he should properly fuel his body with food. Decent food. So today, heeding my own advice, I ate guacamole on toast and eggs with hot sauce. I sat down and ate it…because I needed it. And now I’m writing this post, which I also do not have time for, but I felt I needed to be heard. (And you’re my friends, right?) And I know I’m not the only person who feels this way. I, personally, have never been this busy, but “busy” is not going to kick my ass.

I’m not telling you what to do, but for God’s sake, put the sh*t down and have an egg.”

Thank you Mary Ellen. I think I’m going to go make breakfast. Eggs, I believe, are in order today.

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The Only Way to Go is Up

April 30, 2014

They say when you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up. This seems logical, but where is “up”? We look up to the sky and down to the ground. Where is up if you are in outer space?

 

LadderToStarsWhen you consider your career, is “up the ladder” the only way to go? Or is there something more. Can taking a pay cut actually be “moving up”? That depends on what you’re moving from and what you’re moving to. For many, stepping down is a sign of failure. One might argue that staying where you aren’t happy is also a sign of failure. It’s all relative.

 

A smart businessperson will move as business dictates; supply and demand. If a trend falls out of favor, it’s time to adjust the plan. Life is dynamic. It is always changing. It’s up to us whether we recognize the changes and adjust accordingly.

 

If you are no longer happy where you are, does it make sense to stick with it because that’s what’s expected? Because that’s how you move up? Do you trade your happiness for someone else’s expectations? How about trading up by simply trading. Trade long hours and high stress for fewer hours and doing what you enjoy. It’s quality of life.

 

Quality of life is also a relative term. It is different for everyone. Your choices have to be your own. Not society’s, not your parents’, not mine. You need to decide what is right for you. Take a close look at where you are and what you are doing. Is it where you want to be? Is it even on the path of where you want to be? If the answer to the second question is no, then it might be time to start blazing a new path, or at least finding one that’s more enjoyable to walk on.

Slowing Down

August 1, 2012
Summertime is often a time where we slow things down. The kids are out of school, we take vacations, we enjoy time at the beach or mountains. There’s another type of slowing down that I am often guilty of not listening to. It’s the slowing down of life in general. Taking time to just ‘be’. Taking time to stop ‘doing’ so much. Even taking time to stop thinking (read ‘worrying’) so much.
 
Slowing down doesn’t always come easy for me. Usually, however, the Universe reminds me in no uncertain terms that it’s time to stop. Mid-June it was two days out of work with a pulled back muscle. End of June it was a sprained ankle (though I have to say, the Universe’s timing on this one was poor as it happened while I was actually relaxing on vacation!) So, another two days or so with my foot iced and elevated and literally nowhere to go. Lots of time to think.
 
Even back at work with the sore ankle, I’ve had to slow down. Taking time to consider each move, or to think a process through thoroughly just isn’t how we’re wired anymore. Remember the old saying, “measure twice, cut once.” Our goal instead is to do more in less time. Watching movies, which used to be a time to sit still for a couple of hours, can now not only be done in the car, but on a smartphone in an elevator or the grocery store!
 
Put a stop to the madness! Take some time tonight to look at the stars. Take a walk around the block and look at the neighbors’ gardens. Notice things, even if it’s just while you’re walking to or from your car. When was the last time you looked at the artwork on your own walls?
 
What have you noticed this month that has been right in front of you? This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

It’s Your Life…

June 1, 2012

…so why are so many other people and things controlling it? Let’s take a closer look at this question with an excerpt from Finding Balance, Finding Truth:

When was the last time you had total control over your life? Can’t remember?

Maybe it was in college – you hung out with whom you wanted, began making life’s big decisions on your own. Or maybe you spent college creating the life that your professors, school administration, and family wanted for you.

Maybe it was your teen years – you had few cares in the world. Or maybe you were living up to your coach, guidance counselor, or parents’ dreams.

How about in elementary school – you had no job, little homework, and playtime after school, but you were still told when to get up and go to bed, what to eat, and what to wear.

Infancy is probably the closest we’ve ever come to being in control, and even then we didn’t have total control. If we were hungry, someone fed us. We didn’t have to worry about where our food came from. If we made a mess, someone cleaned it up for us. We had no responsibilities, but then again, we weren’t really mobile or verbal… heck, for a long time we didn’t even know where our own hand went once it was out of sight!

Then something happened. We became more and more in charge of our lives as we got older. The more responsible we became, the more in control we should have become. What happened for most of us is that the more responsible we became for our own lives, the more we gave the control over to others to dictate our life activities. Then guess what happened? We became frustrated, bored, resentful, unhappy, uninspired. And we blame everyone except ourselves.

It’s your life. Are you doing things you enjoy with people  you like? What are you going to do about it?

Share what’s up in your life. What would you like to change?  This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page.  Share your thoughts!

Time to Relax

May 1, 2012
So I’ve found myself with project after project so far this year – none of them completed yet – and little time for relaxing. Granted, the projects are by choice, and I enjoy doing them, but I tend to get wrapped up in them and forget to relax. New ideas come up and I have to force myself to set them aside until current projects are completed. But they’re all so exciting!
 
I want to do it all (and I want to do it all right now!) This has been an ongoing struggle for me all my life. So many activities so little time. Prioritizing has become a way of life. Sometimes this even means saying no to certain things. And sometimes it’s just no for now. This still doesn’t sit well with the perfectionist in me. The one who wants every idea manifested and completed and placed in a nice little box labled “accomplished”.
 
I like to accomplish things. Checking off a list or filing that last page feels good. Each little activity is a little weight off my shoulders. Yes, it’s a weight, even if it’s an activity I chose for enjoyment like reading a book or brewing a batch of beer. These activities are enjoyable while I’m doing them, but there’s still the desire to complete them so I can move on to the next one(s).
 
Patience is the key. Prioritizing. Be…here…now. These are the mantras I teach my clients. It’s time to remind myself of the same. Sometimes it takes getting into a frenzy before I’m realize I’m not walking the talk. So here I am. One major project just about finished and at least two others in the works. I am letting them go, peacefully, while I finish the first and allow myself a little down time. Then I can move forward on the next.
So, just a little reminder to be patient with yourself, with your process. Enjoy where you are now and stay excited about what’s to come!
 
What’s got you excited/antsy/on edge? Share what you’re impatient about right now. This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

Diet vs. Diet

April 9, 2012

So are you trapped by a diet or freed by your diet?  What’s the difference you ask?  Plenty! 

The diet trap is what one follows to lose weight.  It usually means restricting certain items from the menu.  It’s designed to be a quick fix to a long-term problem.  We eliminate things we enjoy in hopes of better health.  What often happens, however, is that we either lose interest and drop the diet or we lose the weight, drop the diet, go back to old habits and the weight returns. Restricting  ourselves, either to certain types of foods or a certain number of calories, puts our nutrition out of balance and can actually increase cravings for the things you are trying to eliminate.

Your diet is what you eat on a regular basis for health and nourishment (not a short-term fix).  If your diet consists of items that are making you ill or overweight, then it’s time to start adding new things to it.  Add new things?  But I’m already overweight, you might be thinking.  Here’s the deal: begin adding new healthy foods to your daily diet and the unhealthy foods will eventually be squeezed out and your health (and weight) will turn around. 

Simple yes. Easy, not necessarily. It will take some effort on your part.  So where do you begin?  Just choose one thing at a time to add to your daily diet.  Choose a new vegetable to have a few times a week or add extra water to your daily regime.  If you’re drinking from a water bottle all day, sodas will be pushed out.  The more vegetables you add to your meals, the less room there will be for the processed, packaged foods.  If you replace 3 breakfasts each week with a smoothie packed with fruits and green superfoods, that’s 3 days without bagels, waffles, or donuts for breakfast.

The focus on the freeing diet is adding rather than restricting.  When you add vegetables, lean meats, whole grains, and superfoods, your body will get the nourishment it needs and the cravings for refined carbs and sugars will go away.  When your plate is filled with these nourishing foods, there won’t be room for the processed food-like products.  If you change your thoughts from “I can’t have that” to “I can have it, but choose to have this instead” you are back in control.

When you begin eating clean, whole foods, your body will begin to work more efficiently.  Your immune system will get stronger. Your skin and hair will look and feel healthier.  Your energy levels will increase.  Keep adding new things.  Try new foods.  You won’t necessarily like all of them, but there are so many whole, healthy, natural foods that you can keep trying different ones and just keep the ones you like.

So turn your health around by adding new whole, real foods to your plate. Then add some more… and more. 

In the next article we will talk about what types of foods to add to your menu.  Don’t want to miss it?  Subscribe to this blog or ‘Like’ our FaceBook page!

April Showers

April 1, 2012
April showers bring May flowers is how the saying goes. What I think it means is that we sometimes have to tolerate the unpleasant to appreciate the pleasant. We wouldn’t appreciate the warmth of summer without experiencing the cold of winter. We spend years studying for a degree or learning a trade with the (hopeful) payoff of a fulfilling career.
 
Sometimes the waiting isn’t so bad. It’s often how you look at it. Just as we wait through the April showers in order to enjoy the May flowers, those April showers can be fun and refreshing as opposed to dreary. Consider taking a walk on a warm, rainy spring day. If you’re near a pond or lake, spend some time watching the ducks. Ducks really know how to enjoy a good rain shower. Be like the ducks and just let the rain roll of your back.

On occassion, the emotions are too deep to just let “roll off your back”. You have to go deeper. Some call it the “dark night of the soul”, where you need to hit rock bottom before you can emerge, like a phoenix from the flames. When emotional turmoil takes its toll, the best way past it is through it. The thought and worry about going through an emotional upheavel is often worse than the actual emotions. Our imaginations can come up with some pretty painful stuff. When things start to feel bleak. When you reach a point where you can’t or won’t work through an emotional blockage, get help. A spiritual counselor or coach can help you with this process.

Share what you will look at differently this month? What will you let “roll off your back”? This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

Eat Real, Eat Well

March 20, 2012

Losing weight and getting healthy is not about low-fat, no-salt, flavorless and fake foods.  It’s not about every chicken dish you’ve ever known remade with soy products.  Your body needs fat.  It needs cholesterol. It needs salt.  You just need to find the right natural products that provide these healthy (and necessary) nutrients.

Consider this, if your grandparents knew it as food, it’s probably real food (yes, including real butter, lard, whole milk, and salt).  If it grew from a plant or ate a plant, it is probably real food.  If it was made in a plant, reconsider your choice.

Think about the vegetables you eat… are they oily?  In most cases, no.  So how do we consider vegetable oil a healthy food product?  Olives, when pressed, give oil.  That sounds like a winner to me.  And what exactly is a “Canola”?  Do the research.  There is no such thing as a “Canola plant”.  “Canola” is derived from “Canada Oil Low Acid”.  I will not go into details, look it up, then decide if you will continue to use it in cooking.

So if all these “healthy” products are not what they seem, what do I do?  Think natural and think flavorful.  Food was not meant to be flavorless cardboard nutrition pellets.  Take that free-range organic chicken and sautee it with garlic and veges in coconut oil (a medium-chain triglyceride – look it up!)  Vegetarian?  No problem.  No need for fake soy-based protein substitutes.  Get your protein from real, whole foods like beans, legumes, nuts, eggs and dairy (if not vegan), and whole grains (especialy quinoa).  There is no need to resort to soy burgers, soy nuggets, and meatless meat products to get enough protein.

And I know I will step on a few toes here, but if you are vegan or vegetarian for health reasons, do some more research.  Meat and poultry are not the health demons they’ve been made out to be the past 20-30 years.  If you are vegan or vegetarian for humanitarian reasons (and especially if you are lacking in necessary nutrients that are easily found in animal protein), find a local farm that you trust to get your occassional meat, eggs, and dairy products.  There are many small, non-factory,  farmers who are just trying to make a living for their families and who feed and treat their livestock well.  You will not only enhance your health, but you will support your local economy as well.

When your body has the proper amounts of nutrients, including fat, cholesterol, and high quality salt, your weight will stabilize to it’s healthy and natural level.

Consistantly Changing

February 1, 2012
It is said that the only constant is change. When we set a goal, the idea is to see it through, right? What happens if life changes? If you change? Do you still force yourself to either see it through or be a failure?
 
What if that goal no longer serves you? What if your life, your interests, your circumstances change and the goal no longer fits? Sometimes we have to let go of the wheel and go with the flow. Staying in touch with your feelings and knowing what’s working and what’s not is a key piece to living a life you enjoy.
 
How many activities are a part of your life only because you’re stuck in a routine? Have you ever wished you had more time to do things you enjoy? That may be a sign that you need to look at where you are spending your time and make some decisions. What will stay? What has run it’s course and needs to be changed?
 
Often drastic changes arise out of necessity. I experienced that recently when my computer died. As much of a pain as that was, it forced me to make some new upgrades that were long overdue. My old operating system and office programs were so old that I was forced to find new options for my web design. In doing this, I was able to streamline my website and was inspired to update the logo as well. So the site isn’t perfect, yet, but that’s all part of the process of change. Finishing my current book has also been on hold while I go through these changes, but that’s where I had to let it go and go with the flow.
 
What needs to change in your life? Where are you stuck in a rut and need to move on? This question is on TheLifeWalk FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

Be Resolute

January 1, 2012
It’s that time of year again to make your New Year’s Resolutions. Those of you who have followed my newsletter for some time know that I am not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions.  For starters, you can decide to change your life and your habits at any time and be successful.  Why wait until January? (I know the answer for many is that the resolution is health related and holiday binging took its toll and the jeans you wore last fall no longer fit).  
 
OK fine, so you have this present motivation to change your eating and exercise habits.  Let’s go with that as it is.  Studies have shown that 78%-88% of resolutions are never completed.  So let’s change things up a bit, why don’t we?  First of all, the mindset.  If this year’s resolution didn’t work, I can always try again next year, right?  And so goes the cycle year after year. Why not simply make a commitment to change?  (Those of you who have followed my newsletter for some time know that ‘change’ is one my favorite words!) 
 
Change can occur at any time, but for the season’s sake, we’ll go with positive changes for 2012, this new year.  How do you make a solid, lasting change in your life?  Here are a few tips:
 
-Make your goal specific (ie: I will lose x pounds and maintain a weight of xx lbs instead of “I will lose weight”)
-Break your goal down into smaller steps, including planning steps (ie: join a gym or invest in exercise equipment of choice, schedule which days/times you will exercise, list items you will remove from or add to your diet)
-Share your goal with a trusted friend (or two).  You do not have to pledge to the world what you are doing, just have someone you can turn to for support when challenges arise. 
 
Be resolute in your commitment to making your life better, and be patient with yourself when challenges arise. 
 
Big life changes often need structure and support.  If you want to make multiple changes in your life, check out the Life Management 101 e-course while it is still available.  You’re invited to sign up at 50% off it’s regular price for the month of January 2012. I hope you’ll decide to make positive changes this year.
 
What positive changes will you make in 2012?  How will you accomplish these changes?  This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page.  Share your thoughts!

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