Posts Tagged ‘life management’

Eat An Egg!

May 1, 2014

I love when I can put a message clearly into words for others to read. This one isn’t mine, it came from my friend Mary Ellen who has been creating like a mad woman lately, her latest creation is 23rd and Bird, an awesome little shop in Norwood, MA. I think she gets her point across quite nicely…

“Over the years, I have found that some of my most profound “aha” moments have come while giving advice to my children. This is especially true when the sh*t is getting real, or the sh*t’s hitting the fan or there’s just too much sh*t going on. Basically, it’s advice on how to take care of yourseIf. I often tell the girls, when they are having a meltdown, to go get in some water. Jump in a puddle, run in the rain, take a swim or a hot bath. So yesterday, before racing off to work. I decided to shower, which I really didn’t have time for. I even managed to shave a leg! (I’m planning on getting to the other one later this week.) But it was good to ask the question, “What do I need?”egg

Yesterday, I said to my son, who is equally as overscheduled, that no matter what, he should properly fuel his body with food. Decent food. So today, heeding my own advice, I ate guacamole on toast and eggs with hot sauce. I sat down and ate it…because I needed it. And now I’m writing this post, which I also do not have time for, but I felt I needed to be heard. (And you’re my friends, right?) And I know I’m not the only person who feels this way. I, personally, have never been this busy, but “busy” is not going to kick my ass.

I’m not telling you what to do, but for God’s sake, put the sh*t down and have an egg.”

Thank you Mary Ellen. I think I’m going to go make breakfast. Eggs, I believe, are in order today.

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The Only Way to Go is Up

April 30, 2014

They say when you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up. This seems logical, but where is “up”? We look up to the sky and down to the ground. Where is up if you are in outer space?

 

LadderToStarsWhen you consider your career, is “up the ladder” the only way to go? Or is there something more. Can taking a pay cut actually be “moving up”? That depends on what you’re moving from and what you’re moving to. For many, stepping down is a sign of failure. One might argue that staying where you aren’t happy is also a sign of failure. It’s all relative.

 

A smart businessperson will move as business dictates; supply and demand. If a trend falls out of favor, it’s time to adjust the plan. Life is dynamic. It is always changing. It’s up to us whether we recognize the changes and adjust accordingly.

 

If you are no longer happy where you are, does it make sense to stick with it because that’s what’s expected? Because that’s how you move up? Do you trade your happiness for someone else’s expectations? How about trading up by simply trading. Trade long hours and high stress for fewer hours and doing what you enjoy. It’s quality of life.

 

Quality of life is also a relative term. It is different for everyone. Your choices have to be your own. Not society’s, not your parents’, not mine. You need to decide what is right for you. Take a close look at where you are and what you are doing. Is it where you want to be? Is it even on the path of where you want to be? If the answer to the second question is no, then it might be time to start blazing a new path, or at least finding one that’s more enjoyable to walk on.

Slowing Down

August 1, 2012
Summertime is often a time where we slow things down. The kids are out of school, we take vacations, we enjoy time at the beach or mountains. There’s another type of slowing down that I am often guilty of not listening to. It’s the slowing down of life in general. Taking time to just ‘be’. Taking time to stop ‘doing’ so much. Even taking time to stop thinking (read ‘worrying’) so much.
 
Slowing down doesn’t always come easy for me. Usually, however, the Universe reminds me in no uncertain terms that it’s time to stop. Mid-June it was two days out of work with a pulled back muscle. End of June it was a sprained ankle (though I have to say, the Universe’s timing on this one was poor as it happened while I was actually relaxing on vacation!) So, another two days or so with my foot iced and elevated and literally nowhere to go. Lots of time to think.
 
Even back at work with the sore ankle, I’ve had to slow down. Taking time to consider each move, or to think a process through thoroughly just isn’t how we’re wired anymore. Remember the old saying, “measure twice, cut once.” Our goal instead is to do more in less time. Watching movies, which used to be a time to sit still for a couple of hours, can now not only be done in the car, but on a smartphone in an elevator or the grocery store!
 
Put a stop to the madness! Take some time tonight to look at the stars. Take a walk around the block and look at the neighbors’ gardens. Notice things, even if it’s just while you’re walking to or from your car. When was the last time you looked at the artwork on your own walls?
 
What have you noticed this month that has been right in front of you? This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

It’s Your Life…

June 1, 2012

…so why are so many other people and things controlling it? Let’s take a closer look at this question with an excerpt from Finding Balance, Finding Truth:

When was the last time you had total control over your life? Can’t remember?

Maybe it was in college – you hung out with whom you wanted, began making life’s big decisions on your own. Or maybe you spent college creating the life that your professors, school administration, and family wanted for you.

Maybe it was your teen years – you had few cares in the world. Or maybe you were living up to your coach, guidance counselor, or parents’ dreams.

How about in elementary school – you had no job, little homework, and playtime after school, but you were still told when to get up and go to bed, what to eat, and what to wear.

Infancy is probably the closest we’ve ever come to being in control, and even then we didn’t have total control. If we were hungry, someone fed us. We didn’t have to worry about where our food came from. If we made a mess, someone cleaned it up for us. We had no responsibilities, but then again, we weren’t really mobile or verbal… heck, for a long time we didn’t even know where our own hand went once it was out of sight!

Then something happened. We became more and more in charge of our lives as we got older. The more responsible we became, the more in control we should have become. What happened for most of us is that the more responsible we became for our own lives, the more we gave the control over to others to dictate our life activities. Then guess what happened? We became frustrated, bored, resentful, unhappy, uninspired. And we blame everyone except ourselves.

It’s your life. Are you doing things you enjoy with people  you like? What are you going to do about it?

Share what’s up in your life. What would you like to change?  This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page.  Share your thoughts!

An Exercise in Procrastination

May 20, 2012

So here it is, ten years later.  I never thought of being a writer, no less publishing a book.  OK, so I’m not really a writer.  I  don’t weave enchanting tales that captivate audiences (much like a book triology I just read and couldn’t put down).  I write to teach.  I write about what I enjoy teaching and that’s health, wellness, and how to create a perfect life.

Really?  A perfect life?  Yup.  And your perfect life is different from that person living next door or in the office down the hall.  What I teach is how to find the “perfect you” inside you.  So, back to this writing thing.  I’m not really a writer.  I just happen to write about what I do (and what I hope you will do too).  If we all do it, I believe this world would be a much better place.  Each of us doing his own thing, being true to her own heart, and all the while respecting each others’ being and doing-ness. Um, is that a word?  “Doing-ness”?  Well, since I am a writer (of sorts), I say it is, so let’s get on with it.  So I write, and now I’ve written and published – yay me!

OK, thanks, but it wasn’t all that easy.  The content was there.  It’s been there for ten years.  It changed format a couple of times, but for some reason the book format just wasn’t forthcoming.  I had every excuse not to get it done: big life changes, little life changes, making ice cream, feeding the cat.  You know, the usual excuses.  It was truly an exercise in procrastination for me.

I don’t typically think of myself as a procrastinator, but this project just wasn’t going to happen.  But now, here it is.  All prettily packaged with a cover and dedication page.  I even spent hours on end getting it into e-book format (this is the 21st century after all) though I don’t even own one of those e-reader things.  I like my dog-eared pages and pencil notes in the margins. But I digress.

I’m not sure what finally gave me the final push.  My life has been more settled, focused, free. Maybe it was being able to just enjoy the being-ness of it all that the doing-ness finally kicked in.  Add now it’s finally done.  I’m excited.  I’m nervous.  What if nobody likes it?  What if it only gets the “pity purchases” from friends and family?  Yeah, you’re right. Who cares?  This one’s for me.  Maybe if I re-read the darn thing I’d have realized long ago that it’s all for me.

You can check out the paperback here http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/lifewalk or ebook here http://www.amazon.com/Suzanne-Arjona  It’s just a little book with a big call to action.

Time to Relax

May 1, 2012
So I’ve found myself with project after project so far this year – none of them completed yet – and little time for relaxing. Granted, the projects are by choice, and I enjoy doing them, but I tend to get wrapped up in them and forget to relax. New ideas come up and I have to force myself to set them aside until current projects are completed. But they’re all so exciting!
 
I want to do it all (and I want to do it all right now!) This has been an ongoing struggle for me all my life. So many activities so little time. Prioritizing has become a way of life. Sometimes this even means saying no to certain things. And sometimes it’s just no for now. This still doesn’t sit well with the perfectionist in me. The one who wants every idea manifested and completed and placed in a nice little box labled “accomplished”.
 
I like to accomplish things. Checking off a list or filing that last page feels good. Each little activity is a little weight off my shoulders. Yes, it’s a weight, even if it’s an activity I chose for enjoyment like reading a book or brewing a batch of beer. These activities are enjoyable while I’m doing them, but there’s still the desire to complete them so I can move on to the next one(s).
 
Patience is the key. Prioritizing. Be…here…now. These are the mantras I teach my clients. It’s time to remind myself of the same. Sometimes it takes getting into a frenzy before I’m realize I’m not walking the talk. So here I am. One major project just about finished and at least two others in the works. I am letting them go, peacefully, while I finish the first and allow myself a little down time. Then I can move forward on the next.
So, just a little reminder to be patient with yourself, with your process. Enjoy where you are now and stay excited about what’s to come!
 
What’s got you excited/antsy/on edge? Share what you’re impatient about right now. This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

Spring Cleaning and De-Cluttering

March 1, 2012
Often our physical environment reflects our emotional environment. When we’re feeling in the dumps, our home or office and even the car may start to look a little ‘dumpy’. This works the other way as well… our physical environment can influence our emotions. When the house or office is cluttered, often our life feels cluttered.
 
Clear your life by doing a little housecleaning. Even just tackling one room can make a difference. Clear the kitchen counter of all bills, papers, and junk. Clean up the bedroom, putting all laundry in a basket, washing the sheets and blankets and making the bed.
If you want to go all out, pretend you’re moving. Go through every room, space by space, drawer by drawer and get rid of everything you don’t want to pack to take with you. If you wouldn’t take it with you in a move, why keep it around if you’re staying?
 
Once you’ve gone through this process, take a break and see how you feel. When you’re ready, go through your life – your calendar, your addressbook, your emotional attachments and do a similar clearing. Look at weekly or monthly obligations that no longer are of interest to you and work on eliminating them from your calendar.
 
The life clearing is a little more difficult to do than the physical cleaning. If you’re serious about reworking your life to include only those things that make you happy and move you forward, check out Life Management 101.
 
Share what you’ve cleaned and cleared from your life this month. This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

Consistantly Changing

February 1, 2012
It is said that the only constant is change. When we set a goal, the idea is to see it through, right? What happens if life changes? If you change? Do you still force yourself to either see it through or be a failure?
 
What if that goal no longer serves you? What if your life, your interests, your circumstances change and the goal no longer fits? Sometimes we have to let go of the wheel and go with the flow. Staying in touch with your feelings and knowing what’s working and what’s not is a key piece to living a life you enjoy.
 
How many activities are a part of your life only because you’re stuck in a routine? Have you ever wished you had more time to do things you enjoy? That may be a sign that you need to look at where you are spending your time and make some decisions. What will stay? What has run it’s course and needs to be changed?
 
Often drastic changes arise out of necessity. I experienced that recently when my computer died. As much of a pain as that was, it forced me to make some new upgrades that were long overdue. My old operating system and office programs were so old that I was forced to find new options for my web design. In doing this, I was able to streamline my website and was inspired to update the logo as well. So the site isn’t perfect, yet, but that’s all part of the process of change. Finishing my current book has also been on hold while I go through these changes, but that’s where I had to let it go and go with the flow.
 
What needs to change in your life? Where are you stuck in a rut and need to move on? This question is on TheLifeWalk FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

Be Resolute

January 1, 2012
It’s that time of year again to make your New Year’s Resolutions. Those of you who have followed my newsletter for some time know that I am not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions.  For starters, you can decide to change your life and your habits at any time and be successful.  Why wait until January? (I know the answer for many is that the resolution is health related and holiday binging took its toll and the jeans you wore last fall no longer fit).  
 
OK fine, so you have this present motivation to change your eating and exercise habits.  Let’s go with that as it is.  Studies have shown that 78%-88% of resolutions are never completed.  So let’s change things up a bit, why don’t we?  First of all, the mindset.  If this year’s resolution didn’t work, I can always try again next year, right?  And so goes the cycle year after year. Why not simply make a commitment to change?  (Those of you who have followed my newsletter for some time know that ‘change’ is one my favorite words!) 
 
Change can occur at any time, but for the season’s sake, we’ll go with positive changes for 2012, this new year.  How do you make a solid, lasting change in your life?  Here are a few tips:
 
-Make your goal specific (ie: I will lose x pounds and maintain a weight of xx lbs instead of “I will lose weight”)
-Break your goal down into smaller steps, including planning steps (ie: join a gym or invest in exercise equipment of choice, schedule which days/times you will exercise, list items you will remove from or add to your diet)
-Share your goal with a trusted friend (or two).  You do not have to pledge to the world what you are doing, just have someone you can turn to for support when challenges arise. 
 
Be resolute in your commitment to making your life better, and be patient with yourself when challenges arise. 
 
Big life changes often need structure and support.  If you want to make multiple changes in your life, check out the Life Management 101 e-course while it is still available.  You’re invited to sign up at 50% off it’s regular price for the month of January 2012. I hope you’ll decide to make positive changes this year.
 
What positive changes will you make in 2012?  How will you accomplish these changes?  This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page.  Share your thoughts!

Is It Time?

December 1, 2011
Is it time to make a change?  We’ve reached the end of another year, which means we’re preparing to begin a new year.  Look back on this year… was there something you wanted to do/start/complete/learn this year, but didn’t?  Did you take that archery class?  Jump out of that airplane? Or learn to play the oboe like you’ve always wanted to? 
 
No?  Why not?  Let me guess… no time.  Life got in the way.  Stuff came up.  What if life was about you doing all those things you want to do?  What if learning to play the oboe was as important as going to work or doing the laundry?  You may laugh, but why shouldn’t it be?  Just because it doesn’t earn income and it only brings intangible enjoyment doesn’t mean it’s not important.
 
Let me tell you something… YOU are important!  Yup, that’s right.  You
deserve to spend time/money/energy on yourself.  If you’re not quite sure how to do that… how to fit in the seemingly unimportant things… maybe it’s time to take a look at what’s really important to you.
 
2012 marks a year of changes.  Some think it will be a year of enlightenment (whatever that means).  Some believe it will be a shift in consciousness.  Whatever happens on the grand scale, you are in charge of the changes in your private world.  For me, 2012 marks the ten year annivesary of the course I designed to make changes in my own life.  Since then, the course, first as a teleclass, then as an e-course, has changed many lives.  Next, the course will be reborn as a weekend long seminar to launch, yes, you guessed it… the book!
 
It is time.  As a preview to the weekend seminar and the book launch, you are invited to participate in the e-course while it is still available.  I haven’t yet decided whether the e-course will continue after the book is published.  But just in case, you’re invited to sign up at 50% off it’s regular price for the month of January 2012. I hope you’ll decide to make positive changes this year.
 
What positive changes will you make in 2012?  How will you accomplish these changes?  This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page.  Share your thoughts!
  

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