Posts Tagged ‘prioritize’

The Only Way to Go is Up

April 30, 2014

They say when you hit rock bottom, the only way to go is up. This seems logical, but where is “up”? We look up to the sky and down to the ground. Where is up if you are in outer space?

 

LadderToStarsWhen you consider your career, is “up the ladder” the only way to go? Or is there something more. Can taking a pay cut actually be “moving up”? That depends on what you’re moving from and what you’re moving to. For many, stepping down is a sign of failure. One might argue that staying where you aren’t happy is also a sign of failure. It’s all relative.

 

A smart businessperson will move as business dictates; supply and demand. If a trend falls out of favor, it’s time to adjust the plan. Life is dynamic. It is always changing. It’s up to us whether we recognize the changes and adjust accordingly.

 

If you are no longer happy where you are, does it make sense to stick with it because that’s what’s expected? Because that’s how you move up? Do you trade your happiness for someone else’s expectations? How about trading up by simply trading. Trade long hours and high stress for fewer hours and doing what you enjoy. It’s quality of life.

 

Quality of life is also a relative term. It is different for everyone. Your choices have to be your own. Not society’s, not your parents’, not mine. You need to decide what is right for you. Take a close look at where you are and what you are doing. Is it where you want to be? Is it even on the path of where you want to be? If the answer to the second question is no, then it might be time to start blazing a new path, or at least finding one that’s more enjoyable to walk on.

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Slowing Down

August 1, 2012
Summertime is often a time where we slow things down. The kids are out of school, we take vacations, we enjoy time at the beach or mountains. There’s another type of slowing down that I am often guilty of not listening to. It’s the slowing down of life in general. Taking time to just ‘be’. Taking time to stop ‘doing’ so much. Even taking time to stop thinking (read ‘worrying’) so much.
 
Slowing down doesn’t always come easy for me. Usually, however, the Universe reminds me in no uncertain terms that it’s time to stop. Mid-June it was two days out of work with a pulled back muscle. End of June it was a sprained ankle (though I have to say, the Universe’s timing on this one was poor as it happened while I was actually relaxing on vacation!) So, another two days or so with my foot iced and elevated and literally nowhere to go. Lots of time to think.
 
Even back at work with the sore ankle, I’ve had to slow down. Taking time to consider each move, or to think a process through thoroughly just isn’t how we’re wired anymore. Remember the old saying, “measure twice, cut once.” Our goal instead is to do more in less time. Watching movies, which used to be a time to sit still for a couple of hours, can now not only be done in the car, but on a smartphone in an elevator or the grocery store!
 
Put a stop to the madness! Take some time tonight to look at the stars. Take a walk around the block and look at the neighbors’ gardens. Notice things, even if it’s just while you’re walking to or from your car. When was the last time you looked at the artwork on your own walls?
 
What have you noticed this month that has been right in front of you? This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

It’s Your Life…

June 1, 2012

…so why are so many other people and things controlling it? Let’s take a closer look at this question with an excerpt from Finding Balance, Finding Truth:

When was the last time you had total control over your life? Can’t remember?

Maybe it was in college – you hung out with whom you wanted, began making life’s big decisions on your own. Or maybe you spent college creating the life that your professors, school administration, and family wanted for you.

Maybe it was your teen years – you had few cares in the world. Or maybe you were living up to your coach, guidance counselor, or parents’ dreams.

How about in elementary school – you had no job, little homework, and playtime after school, but you were still told when to get up and go to bed, what to eat, and what to wear.

Infancy is probably the closest we’ve ever come to being in control, and even then we didn’t have total control. If we were hungry, someone fed us. We didn’t have to worry about where our food came from. If we made a mess, someone cleaned it up for us. We had no responsibilities, but then again, we weren’t really mobile or verbal… heck, for a long time we didn’t even know where our own hand went once it was out of sight!

Then something happened. We became more and more in charge of our lives as we got older. The more responsible we became, the more in control we should have become. What happened for most of us is that the more responsible we became for our own lives, the more we gave the control over to others to dictate our life activities. Then guess what happened? We became frustrated, bored, resentful, unhappy, uninspired. And we blame everyone except ourselves.

It’s your life. Are you doing things you enjoy with people  you like? What are you going to do about it?

Share what’s up in your life. What would you like to change?  This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page.  Share your thoughts!

An Exercise in Procrastination

May 20, 2012

So here it is, ten years later.  I never thought of being a writer, no less publishing a book.  OK, so I’m not really a writer.  I  don’t weave enchanting tales that captivate audiences (much like a book triology I just read and couldn’t put down).  I write to teach.  I write about what I enjoy teaching and that’s health, wellness, and how to create a perfect life.

Really?  A perfect life?  Yup.  And your perfect life is different from that person living next door or in the office down the hall.  What I teach is how to find the “perfect you” inside you.  So, back to this writing thing.  I’m not really a writer.  I just happen to write about what I do (and what I hope you will do too).  If we all do it, I believe this world would be a much better place.  Each of us doing his own thing, being true to her own heart, and all the while respecting each others’ being and doing-ness. Um, is that a word?  “Doing-ness”?  Well, since I am a writer (of sorts), I say it is, so let’s get on with it.  So I write, and now I’ve written and published – yay me!

OK, thanks, but it wasn’t all that easy.  The content was there.  It’s been there for ten years.  It changed format a couple of times, but for some reason the book format just wasn’t forthcoming.  I had every excuse not to get it done: big life changes, little life changes, making ice cream, feeding the cat.  You know, the usual excuses.  It was truly an exercise in procrastination for me.

I don’t typically think of myself as a procrastinator, but this project just wasn’t going to happen.  But now, here it is.  All prettily packaged with a cover and dedication page.  I even spent hours on end getting it into e-book format (this is the 21st century after all) though I don’t even own one of those e-reader things.  I like my dog-eared pages and pencil notes in the margins. But I digress.

I’m not sure what finally gave me the final push.  My life has been more settled, focused, free. Maybe it was being able to just enjoy the being-ness of it all that the doing-ness finally kicked in.  Add now it’s finally done.  I’m excited.  I’m nervous.  What if nobody likes it?  What if it only gets the “pity purchases” from friends and family?  Yeah, you’re right. Who cares?  This one’s for me.  Maybe if I re-read the darn thing I’d have realized long ago that it’s all for me.

You can check out the paperback here http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/lifewalk or ebook here http://www.amazon.com/Suzanne-Arjona  It’s just a little book with a big call to action.

Time to Relax

May 1, 2012
So I’ve found myself with project after project so far this year – none of them completed yet – and little time for relaxing. Granted, the projects are by choice, and I enjoy doing them, but I tend to get wrapped up in them and forget to relax. New ideas come up and I have to force myself to set them aside until current projects are completed. But they’re all so exciting!
 
I want to do it all (and I want to do it all right now!) This has been an ongoing struggle for me all my life. So many activities so little time. Prioritizing has become a way of life. Sometimes this even means saying no to certain things. And sometimes it’s just no for now. This still doesn’t sit well with the perfectionist in me. The one who wants every idea manifested and completed and placed in a nice little box labled “accomplished”.
 
I like to accomplish things. Checking off a list or filing that last page feels good. Each little activity is a little weight off my shoulders. Yes, it’s a weight, even if it’s an activity I chose for enjoyment like reading a book or brewing a batch of beer. These activities are enjoyable while I’m doing them, but there’s still the desire to complete them so I can move on to the next one(s).
 
Patience is the key. Prioritizing. Be…here…now. These are the mantras I teach my clients. It’s time to remind myself of the same. Sometimes it takes getting into a frenzy before I’m realize I’m not walking the talk. So here I am. One major project just about finished and at least two others in the works. I am letting them go, peacefully, while I finish the first and allow myself a little down time. Then I can move forward on the next.
So, just a little reminder to be patient with yourself, with your process. Enjoy where you are now and stay excited about what’s to come!
 
What’s got you excited/antsy/on edge? Share what you’re impatient about right now. This question is on TheLifeWalk Find us on Facebook FaceBook page. Share your thoughts!

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